Rainring #17 Domination. Rainring #18 Control.

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Rainring #17 Domination

The above card is powerful (one of the mentions). Getting this card in a one card draw to answer your question requires additional study is necessary. What exactly are you asking?

Here are some examples to demonstrate various degrees of understanding connected to this card.

  • Will I have a good time at the party? You might but there is a good chance someone else will take the lead to make it a party atmosphere he or she wants. On the other hand you could possess a strong personality and dictate the overall energy of the party.
  • How can I help my disobedient son/daughter?  With such a question the Domination card is advising you to back off if you are way too pushy with your child. Too much force and discipline may not be the answer. You are not always right even though you are the parent.
  • Where is this relationship headed?  The indication is that the relationship is not a healthy one because one of you is not able to be in your own skin. The card advises that it will be off balance. One leader one follower. Is this what you want?

Rainring #18 Control


This card’s meaning is a little different from the Domination card. There are various ways to control someone or some situation. It is more subtle.

Many situations require a certain amount of intellectual and emotional control. It is the process of harnessing ‘power’ the same ‘power’ that is in the Domination card whereby the latter is extreme, in my view.

  • Will I have a good time at the party? Loosen up and you will.
  • How can I help my disobedient son/daughter? Try some new approaches. Reward you child when he/she does obey you as long as your demands are within reach for the child. Befriend you child to melt away the barriers.
  • Where is this relationship headed? It will be a learning process in discovering what you do not want.

We will take a short break from the Rainring study series until the last weekend of the month.

Wishing everyone a safe and happy holiday season!

FROM THE AUTHOR:

The situation portrayed by these two cards is this: a domineering woman is in a power position vis-a-vis a male employee. The card opposite Domination in Rainring is Submission. For this relationship to ‘work’, the domination of one must be paired with the submission of the other. The man (the traveller) responds not by submitting or by engaging in a battle for domination, but by control – in this case meaning self-control. He doesn’t sleep with his employer – though there is no suggestion that he doesn’t find her attractive – knowing that this would be dangerous, even potentially fatal. He also resists the temptation to run away, fight back, or let go (Abandon, the opposite of Control) in any other form. We see quite clearly, then, that Domination is (typically) a behaviour towards another, whereas Control is not necessarily so.
This scenario is the all-too-familar contemporary one of workplace bullying. Self-control is not any kind of solution.

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  1. Hi Seaqueen,
    I’m hoping you might find time at some point to explore this further. In the story we have the woman dominating (the traveller and everyone else in her household) and the man exercising SELF-control. My impression is that domination is something that one person would possibly always do to another or others, whereas control clearly can be directed outward OR inward.
    Again, looking at the feeling (west) side on each of these cards, we have ‘threatened’ on control and ‘powerful’ on Domination. I’m not sure where all this goes…
    Peter @ Rainring

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  2. One afterthought: The situation portrayed by these two cards is this: a domineering woman is in a power position vis-a-vis a male employee. The card opposite Domination in Rainring is Submission. For this relationship to ‘work’, the domination of one must be paired with the submission of the other. The man (the traveller) responds not by submitting or by engaging in a battle for domination, but by control – in this case meaning self-control. He doesn’t sleep with his employer – though there is no suggestion that he doesn’t find her attractive – knowing that this would be dangerous, even potentially fatal. He also resists the temptation to run away, fight back, or let go (Abandon, the opposite of Control) in any other form. We see quite clearly, then, that Domination is (typically) a behaviour towards another, whereas Control is not necessarily so.
    This scenario is the all-too-familar contemporary one of workplace bullying. Self-control is not any kind of solution. In the story [for which Seaqueen will publish the full version for cards 1-19 on 29th December], the woman eventually gets into a liason with someone else, which lets the traveller off the hook.

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